#singlegirlproblems

If you can’t love yourself, how the hell you gonna love
somebody else? Can I get an amen” ~RuPaul

The amazing RuPaul said it best. You have to love yourself
before you can even thinking about loving someone else.
How are you going to let someone love you if you don’t even
love yourself? Seriously? If you don’t know what love you want, how are you
going to ask for or accept it?
This goes back to last week’s post – what are your
standards? Are you looking for love in all the wrong places or are you looking for
the wrong kind of love? Or do you even know what you are looking for? Take a
moment to think about that?
Having trouble figuring out what is your “love type”? Try
this… date yourself.
Ok, I see you glaring at the computer screen thinking that
is already crazy girl has completely gone off the deep end with this one. And I
will admit it…. This takes some guts, but it is a completely liberating
experience. And you may find it addicting. I have!
Here are a couple of ways to find out what you want –
1.) Take yourself out on a date: I try to do this once a
month. Usually on a Saturday, I will go to a restaurant, get a table for one, eat,
and do some work. Yup, that’s it! Sometimes, I’ll treat myself to a movie as
well (if it’s in the budget). You’ll be amazed at how relaxing it is to sit at
a table by yourself and get be in the moment. Trust me, it is totally worth it.
2.) Go on vacation by yourself: I haven’t done this, well I
kind of have, but a solo vacay is in the works! On my recent trip to Disney
World, my friend had to work so I had a few hours to kill before her shift was
over. I could have stayed in the hotel and slept (which may have be the
responsible thing to do) but nooooooo, this is Disney World for crying out loud!
I changed in the hotel bathroom, had lunch and drinks at the bar while my phone
charged, and off to Epcot I went… by myself. And I has so much fun shopping,
getting on rides, and drinking my way through the World Showcase.
Now, after you have done either 1 or 2, analyze your experiences.
How did these outings make you feel? What did you like or did not like about
your date?
After going through these exercises, when you are on an
actual date, remember how you felt when you dated yourself. If the other person
does not make you feel or treat you better than you treated yourself, guess
what? They have got to go!
I know that I sound like a broken record, but repletion is
key! It’s all about what you! Yes, it may sound selfish and it is, but if you
don’t put yourself first, everyone will put yourself last. I’ll let that sink
in for a minute or a week 😉
So love yourself… so you can love someone else! Can I get an
amen!
Later Days!

 

B

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